Why Don’t Guys Know What To Say Or Do When Girls Are Upset

Why don’t guys know what to say or do when girls are upset? Seriously? Why do you think some guys date dozens of women?

If a guy dates more than one woman then it doesn’t matter. If he does or in this case doesn’t do or say something and gets grief for it he can just stop dating the woman who chastised him and move on to another. So a guy who is prepared for that moment doesn’t need to know what to do or say when a girl is upset.

Maybe the guy doesn’t know what the girl will consider the right thing to do or say so he wisely chooses to say and/or do nothing. Sure, he might not really care too but then again maybe if the guy doesn’t care it is not really anything to be upset about, ya know?

Still, don’t believe yours truly. Let’s consult a professional. Tristan Coopersmith, who contributes to Your Tango, is pretty good with shorter yet still slightly dramatic responses. Let’s see what he has to say about guys who don’t know what to say or do when girls are upset.

First Coopersmith sets the scene: “There they are—your guts all over the floor. As you reach for a tissue to wipe away your runny mascara and some words of comfort or advice from your man, you receive a blank stare in return.” (See? He set the scene!)

Coopersmith continues: “Did he hear a word of what you just said? It isn’t that he wasn’t listening, doesn’t have anything to say or doesn’t care, he is likely afraid of saying the wrong thing and you, as a result, getting upset with him.” (See? Did yours truly not already mention a lot of this?)

Finally Coopersmith confirms: “Most guys aren’t as confident in expressing feelings or offering advice as women are but rather solve problems logically. The last thing he wants to do when you are vulnerable is disappoint you by offering the wrong words.”